Driving home I had just come off the island when a large white car shot out from a side road. I slammed my brakes on hard and skidded to an emergency stop. I quickly checked my rear view mirror to make sure no one was going to crash into the back of us. The road was still wet from an earlier thunder storm, the sun had come out and the atmosphere inside the car was very clammy. Both of the front windows were fully open because of the humidity, so the words of the very angry driver in the white car came at great volume.
As he hung out of his window and waved his arm around shouting his abuse my mind switched off. My little girl, who was sat in the passenger seat next to me, just stared at him blankly. Both of us just waited for him to vent whatever he had inside him and then he drove off spinning his wheels, very red faced.
This is our conversation as we drove home today.
(My 11 year old daughter has Aspergers and Dyspraxia)
Me…”That man was very angry! Some people are like that when they are stressed and some people are like that all the time. They don’t have a reason it’s just the way they chose to be.”
*CAL…”It was his fault, he knew that it was his fault so decided to be angry to try to scare us.”
Me…”There are plenty of angry people in this world sweetheart, but there are also plenty of lovely people too. When you find the lovely people you hold onto them very tightly with both hands.”
*CAL…”I’ve already figured that one out Mom. Also I find it very odd when people say, “Can I be your friend?” Friends are people that just find one another and become friends, how can you make someone be your friend?”
Me…”You know what *CAL you are so very wise for someone who is only 11 years old. I am 43 and I have only just figured that out, I’m very proud of you. Also you know the author of your Narnia books? There is a famous quote of his on friendship.
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” (C.S.Lewis)
I like that he says that friendship is “born” I can see this now, it’s a living, growing thing that needs to be treasured and no two friendships are the same.
*CAL…”Really, yes I agree Mom, friendships are born they can’t be forced.”
So again I sit and reflect on…
Jesus’ words about the little children. I see that for me the heart of a child is more challenging than anger, manipulation or control. Pondering on the words of 1 John 4:16-21, thanking Jesus that in His perfect love we can cast out fear.
And for my heart I meditate on the words of
Lamentations 3:22-27 (NIV)
Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.
They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
I say to myself, “The LORD is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.”
The LORD is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him;
it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.
It is good for a man to bear the yoke while he is young.