Hello my lovely Bloggy friends,
I thought EVERYONE had heard the saying,
“Think outside the box!”
but it seems that’s not correct.
Here is a link to explain it…
Funny little story here
I was chatting with my closest friend the other day, about my ideas for this post. We were having quite a giggle on Skype actually. It was all private because we both had our headphones on, we had our own little giggle bubble, only to find out later that I had forgotten to plug mine in. (What a donkey I am) My 18 year old *AJ had been listening to EVERYTHING coming through the loud speakers and we found this out when he gave us a mathematical nine dot puzzle and told us to think outside the box…LOL
I thought this was kind of freaky, so did my friend and then *AJ said I have been listening to you both since you first started talking. One of those very awkward parenting moments, where we both backtracked what we had actually been talking about.
Recipes for Courgettes comes to mind! 🙂
(This time with my headphone actually plugged in…LOL)
Mom got BUSTED, so did my friend!!!
Ok…silliness aside and I’m trying to focus
I wrote a post a while back about my Aspie sleep patterns and how I see a connection between my sleep patterns and my learning patterns. They are like cycles! I gave these four cycles names to help myself to understand my own brain wiring. (Analyse much)
2. The absorber.
4. The retreat.
This is the link to that post if you want to read it. “My Aspie sleep patterns, revisited.”
In all of these learning cycles I have many loops of thought, it’s only when I shutdown, go into retreat that my amount of thought patterns alter. I have only one thought once I have shutdown. That is to find the light again. But I STILL have one thought.
I wrote about my experience of shutdown here… “Me and my loops”
I left a comment for the writer about something she hit on that I TOTALLY related to.
Aspergers Girls mentioned that she asked her hubby what he was thinking and he said, “nothing.”
I really don’t understand how it is possible to think nothing. I asked Mr Locoman about this and he said he can think of nothing too, he does this quite often.
When I asked my little *CAL the same question she actually burst out laughing and said, “Of course it is impossible to think about nothing, we breathe and move and that creates thought. To think of nothing is ridiculous!” Yes she is Aspie, she went on to the scientific ideas and evidence of brain and movement and how just moving her fingers makes for even more creative thinking. Then she zoned back to watching her cartoons, bless her. (she is 11 years old)
Added extra while editing…
*AJ just went into the kitchen and stared at the wall trying to think nothing. He said it can’t be done, end of story! (Not diagnosed but OH.SO.ASPIE)
Now my Aspie sister just popped in with a tin of tuna, eggs and left over stirfry.
I asked her the same question. She screwed her face up and said, “NOOOOO, you can’t think nothing!” I said to her, “According to some people you can!” She again screwed her face up and said, “That’s not right!” She just left and will probably loop on that thought and write her own post on her blog about it.
I know I’m babbling, bear with me, there is a point I think
Ok…I have noticed many times that when I am in the presence of an emotionally charged person I absorb. It’s the only way of explaining it. It’s not mimicking I mimic out of insecurity, this is more like a sympathetic, empathetic, spiritual awareness. Let’s call it “SESA” for short shall we?! Yet more Lisa Lingo…haha (Any clever folk that can give it the proper name, I will be grateful)
This “SESA” can’t be processed and I find it will fix itself in my many, many, many looping thoughts.
This overload of excess emotion then become like part of me. Whatever I try to do it is mixed up in the fabric of my own awareness. Things I can do easily with a clear mind become extremely difficult or even impossible. I can then end up hating doing what I was loving when I started. Objects, belongings and my creations, or even jobs I am doing all become part of that overload. This can feel very negative and affects my Aspie-happy.
So this is where thinking inside the box is helpful
I AM ME! THIS IS MY BOX! THIS IS MY SAFE PLACE! I AM SAFE IN MY SAFE PLACE!
Only kidding….giggle giggle snort!
(Well it is sort of like that, with arm movements) 🙂
I think a lot of Aspies/Auties think outside of the box constantly
We see in great detail and go off on tangents that no one else can see. In our own little worlds, undisturbed in our comfort zones we can make, create, invent and solve the most amazing things.
We have trouble with communication
But we find ways of developing our own system that is totally understandable to us and to those who love and accept us.
Taking time each day to be still, is what helps me
I try to do this in prayer throughout my day now, short breaks where I ground myself and release. If I feel I am overwhelmed or I may have absorbed too much mental, physical, emotional or even spiritual baggage I put it back in the box it belongs. I mentally picture the person, experience, environment it belongs to and I place it back in that mental box. It’s not mine to carry and I will not allow it to drain me.
This is where my Faith and my Aspieness hold hands
I am extremely visual and have a very vivid imagination. Praying through this helps me because I give the difficulties to God for whoever they belongs to. I also get strength, guidance and peace from prayer which helps me to see clearly what I can or cannot do to help the person who I have absorbed emotions from. As a Christian I will never walk away from those I feel God has brought to me. I will help in any way I can, in any way I feel God is helping me to understand.
I know this post seems a little strange
It’s the sort of thing most people don’t want to talk about
But I just wanted to put this out there to others. I was wondering if any other Aspies, or parents of those on the spectrum had noticed this too. If you have please leave a comment or if you are not wanting to comment publically please feel free to email me, my email address you will find on my contact page above. I would very much appreciate feed back.
Love and hugs.
Lisa. xx 🙂