Hi, I was wondering and I hope you don’t mind me asking your advice.
How do I switch off to people who don’t accept me?
I’m feeling very hurt by some people at the moment, and I don’t know how to stop myself from thinking about this.
Some are embarrassed by me talking about Aspergers and it being SO obvious in those around me. I know it’s just ignorance and denial but it hurts my feelings that they are telling me what to do.
I will not give up my blog, and I will not pretend to be “normal” any more. So, they are giving me the cold shoulder.
My blog has helped me so much, I feel accepted and happy with who I am for the first time in my life. But I love these people and I hate that I am making them unhappy.
Part of me feels that If they really loved me, then they would accept me, and be happy that I am happy.
I know it is a shock for them to finally meet the real me. After all I have never allowed myself to “BE” before, but I have always “BEEN”, I was just locked inside.
I’m sorry to ask you and I’m sorry for dumping on you. It’s just that I am an extremely emotional person and I hate conflict. So I thought that maybe you might be able to help me with this.
Don’t worry if you have no answers it was just a thought.
Love you. x
Why I have shared this…
Jesus had Three friends that he confided in… Peter, James and John. (Mark 14:33)
I have Three friends who I trust, these are the answers they came back with.
1. You need to keep being you, and let them be them.
2. Maybe this NEEDS to come to a head so that it can be dealt with once and for all.
3. I wonder if you could blog this? It’s very loving and heartfelt, not at all acrimonious. Maybe some of your bloggy friends have suggestions too.
Little ME photo…..
This photo was taken at the time I started to realise that I was different. I remember being told to smile but I didn’t feel like smiling.
The teacher told me off and I tried my best to smile but I hated the camera and I felt sad.
My Nanny had just died and I didn’t know how to NOT feel sad.
I still don’t know how to NOT feel sad, when I care.